The ONE word to end all arguments with your child.

I love this word and yet for months on end I will forget to use it. It's like it simply drop out of my vocabulary...until I am at my wits end with argumentative young ones.

There are few things that drive me batty as fast as an argumentative child. Perhaps it's the challenge of my authority...I'm working on that. (I do have an oppositional defiant child-man I love that kid)





Maybe it's the screaming fit that almost always comes from one of the parties involved (yes, sometimes that is me)

 



Or, maybe it's because I really don't like confrontation. I just want us all to get along.



Whatever the reason, I am so thankful for the young mother who told me her parents used this word on her........and she hated it because when she heard that word she knew the battle was lost.

So what is this magical argument ending word???

nev·er·the·less

ˌnevərT͟Həˈles/

adverb

1. in spite of that; notwithstanding; all the same.

Now that I have remembered this very powerful word, I am ready for battle a polite conversation with my child again.



So, what's the key to success with this strategy?
 
It will come as no surprise. Be consistent.


Children love to argue. It is normal. It is part of growing up. As parents we "get" that. Most of us knew what we'd be getting into when we signed up for this job (we were kids once...we remember wanting our own way and arguing for it).

Since kids love to argue, there are going to be many opportunities for me to practice this! And that's what it takes. Lots of practice. I used to be so much better at this and I am so excited I finally remembered this word again!!

I love that no matter what he or she comes back with, I can always say "Nevertheless  ________________________" and fill in the blank with whatever request I have made. (e.g. "Nevertheless, you have to do the dishes.") And then I become a broken record repeating the same words over and over again.



Be sure to pair your new mantra with some deep breathing so you can keep your cool.



Because this can go on for a while when you first start using your new and powerful word.
nev·er·the·less